Ep. 72| You Don’t Have a Love Problem…You Have a Pattern Problem!

Growth isn’t always about what you start…

Sometimes it’s about what you finally stop repeating.

This week, I’m joined by Lenette for a conversation that gets honest about something a lot of us don’t like to admit…

We don’t just have a love problem, we have a *pattern* problem.

Because if we’re real…

A lot of us have asked for different while still choosing familiar.

This episode isn’t about blaming other people for what didn’t work.

It’s about taking a step back and asking yourself the harder question:

**“What am I still choosing that’s keeping me in the same cycle?”**

We start light with Pass the Plate real, relatable questions that open the door.

But then we go deeper…

Into the patterns we ignore,

the boundaries we avoid,

and the truth about what it actually looks like to choose yourself for real.

In this episode, we talk about:

• Recognizing the patterns you keep repeating

• The difference between hope and ignoring red flags

• What self-love actually looks like in real life, not just online

• The boundaries that change everything

• How to stop overextending yourself for people

• Letting go without needing closure

• Why choosing yourself feels uncomfortable—but necessary

• Becoming the person who no longer accepts less

Because healing isn’t just about awareness…

It’s about making different choices, even when they feel unfamiliar.

If you’ve been feeling stuck in the same cycles, same relationships, same outcomes…

This episode might be the wake-up call you didn’t know you needed.

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