Everybody Can’t Have Me Right Now: Overextending Is Costing Us Everything

You ever think you’re burned out… but realize you’re just exhausted from being available to everybody but yourself?

Yeah. That part.

In this episode, I’m coming back from a short hiatus and telling the truth about why rest didn’t actually feel like rest. It wasn’t burnout. It was overextension.

Too many conversations. Too much access. Too much proving love by showing up at the expense of my own goals.

We talk about the difference between consistency and over-availability, how poor boundaries turn other people’s urgency into your emergency, and why this season of building requires less access to me and more commitment to myself.

This isn’t about cutting people off.

It’s about finally choosing yourself without guilt.

🧠 Topics we get into:

1. Why burnout isn’t always the real problem
2. How overextending for others drains your purpose
3. The lie we tell ourselves about “being consistent”
4. Why availability is not the same as love
5. Setting boundaries without over-explaining yourself
6. Choosing your goals without feeling like the villain

⏱️ Episode Highlights:

1. “Everybody’s urgency became my emergency”
2. Why helping everyone else kept me stuck
3. The cost of proving love through access
4. Why this season requires less of them and more of me

💬 It’s About DAMN Time Segment:

It’s about damn time I limit access to pursue the goals and dreams I actually want and need.

🎯 D.A.M.N. Challenge:

Identify one place where you’re overextending yourself this week.

Pull back without explanation.

No long story. No justification. Just do it.

See how it feels.

If this episode hit home, don’t just listen.

Share it.

Post it in your stories.

Send it to someone who needs permission to choose themselves.

That’s how you help me keep this thing moving.

📲 Connect with Me

🔗 Follow me on all platforms: @DaWholeDamnShow

🎧 Follow It’s About DAMN Time: @ItsAboutDamnTimePod

💥 Cop the DAMN University merch right here → Shop now