You Can't Perform Your Way Into Healing

In this powerful and truth-telling episode of Black Girl Burnout, Kelley unpacks a hard but necessary reality: you can’t perform your way into healing. We often use relationships, achievements, and overgiving as survival tools, but true healing requires something different—softness, presence, and rest.

💡 Today You’ll Learn:

• Why survival tools are not the same as healing practices
• How overachieving, overgiving, and over-controlling keep us stuck
• The importance of rewriting the narratives we’ve carried for so long
• Practical ways to embrace softness, rest, and true intimacy with yourself

This episode is an invitation to pause, reflect, and start moving differently in your life. It's time to choose healing over performance and create space for the sweetness that comes with doing the real work.

✨ Episode Highlights:

01:06 The trap of performing your way through life

02:44 Personal experiences with survival vs. healing

05:18 The societal rewards of overgiving and overachieving

09:09 The importance of rewriting our internal narratives

10:50 Practical steps for stepping into softness and true rest

15:07 Final thoughts and next steps in your healing journey

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BGB Community Minute l Aline Lopes

ATTN: BGB Community In Dorchester (Boston Area) Massachusetts, we are happy to highlight an amazing upcoming play in your area. We need your help to support this event.

Note From Aline Lopes:

My name is Aline and I am a theatre company owner from Boston. Our productions are focused on stereotypes and taboos surrounding mental health that exist in black and brown communities.

About The Play:

The play's name is "The Many Faces Of The Strong Black Woman: The Dark Days", and we will be performing at the Strand Theater in Dorchester, MA April 4th and 5th, 2025. 

The play is a part of a series of plays that displays different stories of black women maneuvering through the stressors of life all while trying to live up to the ideals held by the idea of "the strong black woman". The plays are meant to highlight the interconnectivity that exists between our biology and our race. The play displays some of the ways these factors impact us as black women living in the US. This particular play showcases what happens when all the members of a sisterhood are simultaneously struggling to manage their individual mental health status. The play focuses on the ways we interact with our inner circle and the world beyond when our mental health is suffering. 

This production displays some of the dark ways we impact ourselves and those close to us when our mental health is deteriorating. The story is told through dialogue, dancing, singing and rapping. The production collaborates with local artists and works hard to use as much original local music as possible. 

Where:

Strand Theater

543 Columbia Rd

Dorchester,, MA 02125

When:

Friday April 4, 2025

Saturday April 5, 2025

Attire:

Evening / Cocktail Attire

Time:

The play begins at 7pm – 8:30 (20 minute intermission). Afterwards there is a meet and greet with the cast. Coffee and desserts are served during this time. 

Art:

We will also be displaying paintings and other visual arts pieces, from college and high school students in the gallery. 

Purchase Your Ticket:

https://www.eventbrite.com/e/the-many-faces-of-the-strong-black-woman-the-dark-day-tickets-1242367557809?aff=oddtdtcreator

Learn More About This Organization

https://www.thecrewproductions.com/

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