When Understanding Becomes Overstanding

In this reflective check-in episode of She Wolf Alchemy, Ress dives deep into the shadow side of empathy, what she calls “overstanding”: the habit of stretching your compassion so far that you lose yourself in someone else’s story. She unpacks how constantly excusing, explaining, and empathizing with others,especially at your own expense becomes a quiet form of self-abandonment.

Using personal stories, sharp metaphors, and grounded insight, Ress explores how emotional overextension can leave you drained, resentful, and far from your center. She offers empowering truths on how to recognize when you’re sacrificing your peace in the name of “being a good person” and shares practices for reclaiming your boundaries, energy, and authenticity.