Ep 053: I Think All Black Women Have a Mother Wound

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Many people misunderstand the mother wound, thinking it’s about blaming or resenting mothers. But it’s not about pointing fingers—it’s about recognizing the emotional gaps and patterns that have been passed down, often without intention.

The mother wound isn’t just about your relationship with your mom; it’s about how her struggles and beliefs have shaped you. If she grew up feeling unloved, overwhelmed, or pressured to be perfect, she may have unknowingly passed those feelings on to you. Not because she wanted to hurt you, but because she never had the chance to heal.

Healing doesn’t mean cutting off your mother or ignoring the good she did. It means seeing her as a person with her own struggles while also choosing to grow beyond the pain. It means making sure the cycle stops with you so that future generations don’t have to carry the same weight.

In this episode, I’m exploring a big question—does every Black woman have a mother wound? We break down what the mother wound really is, how it can exist even in seemingly healthy relationships, and why it affects some women differently than others. I also unpack the loss of autonomy, the weight of generational trauma, and the subtle ways this wound can shape your sense of selfIf you’ve ever questioned your experience, this episode brings clarity. Tune in to learn why healing isn’t just about your mother—it’s about reclaiming you.

"The mother wound is a relational wound, and it has to be healed in relation with others. If you are doing it alone, it is just scratching the surface." – Jennifer Arnise

Topics Covered:

(00:00:00) Episode Snippet

(00:00:11) Welcome to The Black Mother Wound Podcast

(00:02:19) The hypothesis: Every Black woman has a mother wound

(00:04:03) What truly is a mother wound?

(00:06:28) A generational wound rooted in patriarchy and racism

(00:08:48) Love doesn’t erase harm

(00:10:35) You can’t heal a mother wound alone

(00:11:46) Healing requires accountability and autonomy

(00:13:09) The dehumanization of motherhood

(00:15:00) Your mother has a mother wound too

(00:16:57) Healing is necessary to break cycles

(00:18:05) The Mother Wound is a societal issue

(00:20:34) Everybody has a crack in their glass

(00:21:01) Shame is a barrier to healing

(00:25:03) Give us your feedback!

Key Takeaways: 

"The mother wound is about the lack of autonomy."

DISCLAIMER: I am not a licensed psychologist, medical doctor, or health care professional and my services do not replace the care of psychologists, doctors or other healthcare professionals. All opinions expressed here are my own. If you feel you are in any danger of harming yourself please call 911. I am not providing health care, medical or nutritional therapy services, or attempting to diagnose, treat, prevent or cure any physical, mental or emotional issue, disease or condition. All opinions are my own and based on my personal lived experience.

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