A day in the life of a single mom.

Single Mom (noun)

a mother who brings up a child or children alone, without a partner.

 

 

In 2020, there were about 4.25 million Black families in the United States with single mothers. This is an increase from 1990 levels when there were about 3.4 million Black families with a single mother.

Source:• Number of Black single mothers U.S. 2020 | Statista

 

64% are single mothers, according to the Anne E Casey Foundation.

Source: https://datacenter.kidscount.org/data/tables/107-children-in-single-parent-families-by-race

Instead, more than one-third of all Black children in the United States under the age of 18 live with unmarried mothers—compared to 6.5 percent of White children.Jan 25, 2022

Source: Census Bureau: Higher Percentage of Black Children Live with Single Mothers | AFRO American Newspapers

 

More Data on the Extent of Fatherlessness

57.6% of black children, 31.2% of Hispanic children, and 20.7% of white children are living absent their biological fathers. …

According to 72.2 % of the U.S. population, fatherlessness is the most significant family or social problem facing America.

Source: The Extent of Fatherlessness – National Center for Fathering

Some good news !! Sistahs we are making it happen

In 1990, 48.1 percent of all Black families with a single mother in the United States lived below the poverty level. In 2020, that figure had decreased to 28.1 percent.Oct 5, 2021

Source: • Poverty rate of Black single mothers U.S. 2020 | Statista

 

 

According to the American Association of University Women, Among Black students in higher education, women are more likely than men to earn degrees: Black women get 64.1% of bachelor’s degrees, 71.5% of master’s degrees and 65.9%of doctoral, medical, and dental degrees.

Source: Fast Facts: Women of Color in Higher Ed – AAUW : Empowering Women Since 1881

 

 

What is a tribe?

a social division in a traditional society consisting of families or communities linked by social, economic, religious, or blood ties, with a common culture and dialect, typically having a recognized leader.

Sources: 

https://teenbraintrust.com/whats-your-parenting-style-take-our-quiz-to-find-out/

4 Types of Parenting Styles and Their Effects on Kids

How To Survive Financially As A Single Mom  | Clever Girl Finance

 

Lareau calls the middle-class parenting style “concerted cultivation” and poor parents in contrast use the “accomplishment of natural growth” style. The “concerted cultivation” parenting style has a lot more benefits. They way someone’s parents raise them greatly impacts their future and their growth.

Source: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=6HN9ydNktAc This… | Sutori

 

Recommended Book 

Outliers by Malcolm Gladwell

 

7 tips for Single Moms

 

1. Change your financial mindset
2. Separate your finances from your ex-partner (if applicable)
3. Take out insurance for your family.
4. Increase your earnings. (Got to have a Mommy side hustle)
5. Start debt management to survive financially as a single mom.
6. Understand your taxes as a single mom.
7. Make a single mom budget.

 

Songs to add to your Single Mom Playlist 

Thanks for my child by Cheryl PESPI Riley

Superwoman by Karen White

Superwoman by Alicia Keyes

Superwoman by Lil Mo

Getoutchohead by Dzoidor

Baby Mama by Fantasia

 

Ebony Flint, Project Coordinator, Peer Support Specialist and Founder of Tribe called Black

contact: eflint@hsri.org

Ebony is a Project Coordinator and Certified Peer Specialist whose work is driven by a passion for accessibility for all and for creating brave spaces at Human Service Resource Institute. Ebony is particularly dedicated to creating cultural wealth in her community and sharing her journey to inspire others. Ebony is also highly skilled in program development, training, and group facilitation. In addition to supporting individuals with navigating their emotional wellness, Ebony also has deep experience of working with people in distress. Ebony is a board member of the Council Against Institutional & Psychiatric Abuse (CAIPA). This council is the advisory board for the Disability Law Center.

Prior to joining HSRI, Ebony was the Black Community Connector at Wild Ivy Social Justice Network, where her work addressed increasing the voice, choice, access, and personal and collective power of those who experience life interrupting emotional distress and other challenges. Prior to that, Ebony worked as a Program Coordinator at The Living Room, a peer-run crisis alternative, where she provided everyday oversight of the space and staff and facilitated global virtual peer support groups at the start of the pandemic. Ebony is still a part-time trainer and group facilitator with Wildflower Alliance, a grassroots peer support, advocacy, and training organization. In this role, she co-facilitates Alternative to Suicide groups and training and anti-oppression training.

When not at work, Ebony enjoys sarcastic shirts, UFC, spending time with her daughter, traveling, and listening to music—especially rap.

Education

Certified Peer Specialist

Charting the Life Course Ambassador

Alternatives to Suicide Trainer/Facilitator

Hearing Voices Network Trainer/Facilitator

WRAP Facilitator

Recent Projects

Founder of A Tribe Called Black (TCB). A Tribe Called Black is a new and growing community of Black and Latinx individuals; learning, healing, and connecting in numerous ways by prioritizing the experiences of people of color.

Leading the Way program. This is a 6-month series for youth to share their wisdom and gain emotional wellness skills.

About 

a hybrid weekly series over a span of 3 months. As a Black mother, it is hard to uphold all of the expectations as a mom and the expectations of the world. Family doesn’t always understand or help. Maybe they live far away.. Maybe there is trauma but either way we can feel so alone and even lost. Wanting to be the best mother we can be and protect our children. Sometimes we do things we didn’t even think we could in the name of our children…push through fears we didn’t even know we had or ignored just to make sure they were straight. To say we are amazing is an understatement but you can def call us SUPERMOM. We get things done no matter how we feel or what we are going through. This is not a bad thing…actually it is kind of badass but it can take its toll. You know what I mean. We put ourselves last and therefore don’t always show up the way we want to sometimes. Let’s talk about it, learn some tools, share some knowledge, power up other mothers. 

During our time together we will explore the pains and gains of being a mother of color, not just today, but EVERYDAY. The virtual space will be where we spend time exploring and sharing ways to navigate frustration, barriers, negative messages; high expectations of others and ourselves, breaking generational cycles, and more. 

The goal is to create a container for Black and Latinx mothers to connect, share wisdom, and be vulnerable about the real battles we push through… breakthroughs as moms…..SUPER MOMS. 

Come share your powers and uplift other mothers…learn something new for yourself and your family, heal with other Black and Latinx women who can relate to similar barriers, connect via common experiences, and share resources, and knowledge. 

If interested please reach out to Ebony Flint directly at eb@tcb.black 

 

In Closing, remember to #BETonSELF

Happiness is an inside job

Prioritize yourself

Practice Self care Daily -You are worth it

Saying No is a complete sentence

Be you unapologetically

Set boundaries & mean it-Periodt !

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Learning that 𝗡𝗢 is a complete sentence. 💯

 

✨So many times, especially as Mothers and/or caretakers, we can feel guilty for taking the time we need to regroup, refresh and restore ourselves so  that we can get the stuff done that we need to.

 

✨We tend to be soo busy pouring into others that it ends up leaving us running on empty and that’s no way to live!!

 

✔️ prioritize yourself

✔️ set boundaries

✔️ indulge in self care

 

 

 

and don’t apologize for it because 𝗬𝗢𝗨 𝗗𝗘𝗦𝗘𝗥𝗩𝗘 𝗜𝗧!!💕💕💕