Relationship Anarchy & Clarifying Codependence

Your best friend used to be your first call. Now you have to schedule weeks in advance just to see her, and her new boyfriend keeps calling your friendship “codependent.”

A listener named Sarah shares:

“My best friend and I have been inseparable for six years. We talk every day, we’re each other’s emergency contacts, and honestly she feels more like family than my actual family. But lately her new boyfriend has been making comments about how ‘codependent’ we are and how she needs to ‘prioritize him now.’ She’s starting to pull back and it’s breaking my heart. Am I wrong to feel like she’s my person? How do I communicate to her that what we have matters just as much without sounding jealous or clingy?”

In this episode, we unpack the invisible hierarchy of love that puts romance at the top and pushes friendships aside. You’ll hear why speaking up for the relationships that matter isn’t selfish, it’s necessary, and how to advocate for your connections without being dismissed as jealous or needy.

What You’ll Hear In This Episode:

• Why romantic love doesn’t automatically rank higher than friendship love
• How the “codependent” label gets weaponized against close friendships
• What it means when a partner asks someone to “prioritize him now”
• The real reason you’re afraid of sounding jealous or clingy
• How to start the conversation without triggering defensiveness
• When to recognize someone is making you smaller in their life

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