102: How to Get People To Change

“The ability to control and change yourself is actually the greatest power of all.”

Episode Summary:  We often despair of the behavior of people around us – our parents, friends, children or partner – and we do our best to try and make them change. Unfortunately, forcing people to change doesn’t usually work. Listen to this episode to learn 3 simple keys that will help you bring real and lasting change to the people around you.

Some Questions I Ask:

• Do you often question how others should be living?
• What does this person mirror to you about yourself?
• What is this person showing you about yourself that you don’t want to see? That you might be resisting?
• Have you tried to really listen and understand why someone does what they do?

In This Episode You Will Learn:

• Three keys to get people to change.
• The unpleasant effects of trying to attack people to make them change.
• The first step you need to take in order to get others to shift.
• How to know when people are ready to change.
• Why imposing your vision onto others and trying to will them to change is not an effective strategy.