You’re Not Healed, You’re Aware Feat. Tu’Shouney Phillips

Happy Friday nieces and nephews! 

Your favorite aunties Bridget Kelly and Mandii B are joined by author of “A Walk Into The Dark & Cold” Tu’shouney for some grown, honest, and slightly toxic conversations. The three cover topics like, the limitations of love language theory and the importance of factoring in trauma, the 5 types of relationships within a marriage, learning how to allow space while still being present, Being intentionally patient, and the importance of asking/answering the hard questions while dating AKA Dating Backwards!. 

Timestamps:

(5:00) Learning how to compromise within a relationship: 1 partner wanting to celebrate a holiday that the other does not believe in 

{20:00) The misuse/overuse of the love language theory:

• Does not consider/factor in experiences with trauma 
• Can be weaponized as a tallying metric
• Whole love vs. Love vs. attachments

(30:00) Being HEALED isn’t REAL, you’re simply aware. Healing is an ongoing journey.

(38:00) Theory: MOST Men don’t like women and women don’t like men

(40:00) Why do men repel from “wholeness” 

(50:00) Being Honest about Dishonesty doesn’t make betrayal okay: KEVIN GATES CLIP 

(1:00:00) 5 types of relationships within a marriage for the full relationship to thrive: 

• The one with yourself
• Friendship with each other
• Romantic relationship with each other
• Sexual relationships with each other
• Martial relationship  

(1:10:00) Dating backwards: within 1 conversation you can learn what it usually take 6 months to learn:

• List a few things you know that you need to work on 
• List a few things that people have told you you need to work on 

(1:15:00) Anything that separates you from love, is self harm: extreme detachment, isolation, etc. 

(1:16:00) Freshly Squeezed:

• Same Mistake- Destin Conrad Ft. Alex Isley 
• Easy- Samoht
• No Evil – SiR

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