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The Red Flag We Mistake For Vulnerability | Mid Week Tease

podcast June 10, 2026


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This week on The Mid Week Tease, Adelle explores one of the most confusing relationship dynamics: loving someone who is deeply attached to being the victim. Not everyone who has experienced pain is stuck in victimhood. Many people carry trauma, grief and heartbreak while still taking accountability for their actions. But what happens when someone’s wounds become their identity? When every ex was toxic, every friendship ended in betrayal, every boss was unfair, and every conflict somehow ends with them being the injured party? In this episode, Adelle unpacks:

  • The difference between pain and victimhood
  • Why empathy can sometimes become self-abandonment
  • The hidden entitlement that often sits beneath chronic victimhood
  • How accountability gets reversed in unhealthy relationships
  • Why so many women become trapped in the role of healer, rescuer or saviour
  • The difference between someone who is healing and someone who is attached to staying hurt
  • Why you cannot do someone else’s healing for them
  • The question every woman should ask herself before staying in these dynamics

If you’ve ever found yourself exhausted from carrying the emotional weight of a relationship, this episode is for you.

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