Ep 172: Not just a diagnosis | A real talk about ADHD, money, and relationships

"I was so sad that this might be the case, that I might have ADHD."

This week we're peeling back the layers of Kiersten’s late diagnosis of ADHD. This episode is unlike any other as we get personal about Kiersten's diagnosis, the societal pressures that shaped her understanding of it, and the impact it has on her relationship with Julien and with money.

Join us as we explore the complexities of ADHD and how it can manifest in a partner. You'll hear about the emotional roller coaster that followed and the surprising ways ADHD impacts daily life, especially when it comes to the intersection of money. We also dive into why women are so underdiagnosed and misunderstood, the impact of hormones, perimenopause, and menopause on symptoms, the power of vulnerability, and the role of a partner in supporting someone with ADHD. This episode is packed with insights, humor, and a healthy dose of honesty.

Key Takeaways: 

• ADHD is not just a lack of attention, but a difference in how the brain processes and learns. It can impact various aspects of life, including organization, memory, and motivation.
• The diagnosis can be an emotional process, with feelings of sadness, denial, and even shame. It can be challenging to reconcile past successes with a new understanding of one's brain.
• The "Mommy Factor" describes the influx of women who are diagnosed only after their child is
• It's important to challenge the negative language used to describe ADHD and other neurodivergent conditions. Instead of focusing on deficits, we should focus on understanding individual differences and celebrating unique strengths.
• Partners can play a huge role in supporting someone with ADHD. They can help with understanding the condition, navigating the emotional journey, and advocating for necessary resources.
• ADHD is not an excuse, but an explanation that can help us understand and overcome challenges.

Links: 

• For women with money issues, an ADHD diagnosis can be revelatory from Paulette Perhach via The NY Times
• ADHD impairment peaks in menopause 
• How the "ADHD tax" affects adult finances
• Interview with Rich Jones on how work affects our mental health via Cashing Out podcast 
• Keeping Finance Personal book by Ellyce Fulmore 

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