Ep 081: She Couldn’t See the Best in You

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Growing up with a mother who couldn’t see your potential or value leaves a mark you carry for years. You start believing that the version of yourself she approves of is the only “right” version, abandoning your true self just to feel loved. That early conditioning shapes your self-esteem, your choices, and how you show up in the world.

Healing from this “mother wound” is about giving yourself the love and validation you didn’t get. It’s about creating a safe space for your inner child, embracing who you really are, and building your own foundation of worth. Even if she never saw you, you can see yourself, and that’s enough to start living your life on your own terms.

In this episode of The Black Mother Wound Podcast, we explore what it means to grow up without a mother who truly sees you, and how that shapes your self-worth, choices, and sense of self. I share how re-parenting yourself and creating a safe space for your inner child can help you step into your authentic self, even when that validation wasn’t given to you. We also touch on taking the first steps toward healing, letting yourself be seen, and building the confidence to live life on your own terms.

Topics Covered:

(00:00:00) Episode Snippet

(00:00:21) Welcome to The Black Mother Wound Podcast

(00:01:48) Announcement: Resolve Evolved Live Program

(00:03:20) Growing up unseen by your mother

(00:06:14) The inner conflict between who you are and who she wanted you to be

 (00:08:16) How conditional love impacts your life choices

 (00:11:06) The cracked mirrors passed down

 (00:13:05) Re-parenting yourself with care

 (00:18:38) Healing is not a sprint

 (00:20:30) Create safety for your inner child

 (00:23:34) Expand your freedom and break restrictive patterns

 (00:25:25) Claiming authentic achievement based on your true self

 (00:28:34) Allowing your true self to shine

Key Takeaways:

"When you grow up with a mother who cannot see your innate value, you believe that you don't deserve certain things."

"The mother wound is a generational wound."

DISCLAIMER: I am not a licensed psychologist, medical doctor, or health care professional and my services do not replace the care of psychologists, doctors or other healthcare professionals. All opinions expressed here are my own. If you feel you are in any danger of harming yourself please call 911. I am not providing health care, medical or nutritional therapy services, or attempting to diagnose, treat, prevent or cure any physical, mental or emotional issue, disease or condition. All opinions are my own and based on my personal lived experience.

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