Ep 054: You Want to Heal Your Mother Wound, but You Feel Stuck

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Healing is an action verb.

You want to heal, but you don’t want to disappoint anybody. You want change, but you don’t want to risk losing anything. You’re waiting for the right moment, the perfect circumstances—yet the truth is, the right time is now.

Healing is not passive. It is not something bestowed upon you because you waited long enough or believed hard enough. Healing requires movement, choices, and the willingness to disrupt what has always been. It is an action verb—something you do, not something you wait for.

So, what does healing look like in action? It looks like setting boundaries even when it makes others uncomfortable. It looks like therapy, rest, accountability, and unlearning. It looks like choosing yourself, not just in whispers and wishes, but in real, tangible ways. Healing is not waiting for permission. It is not seeking validation. It is deciding, today, that you are worthy of the work. Because healing is not just something that happens—it is something you do.

In this episode, I break down a hard truth: healing isn’t passive—it’s an action verb. I explore how religious beliefs have shaped our understanding of healing and challenge you to take authority over your emotional and mental well-being. Tune in for a real, no-nonsense conversation on what it takes to truly heal.

 "Healing is about not abandoning yourself. It is about showing up authentically, having real self-esteem, and building real community based on who you are—not who you can be of service to." – Jennifer Arnise

Topics Covered:
(00:00:00) Episode Snippet
(00:00:16) Welcome to The Black Mother Wound Podcast
(00:02:44) Healing is an action verb
(00:04:22) The religious influence on healing
(00:06:50) Hands-off approach to healing
(00:07:37) No real change without action
(00:09:41) Why emotional healing is harder
(00:10:42) The historical roots of emotional suppression
(00:14:19) Healing requires consistent action
(00:16:22) Why people can't implement
(00:19:16) Repair
(00:20:08) How you give your authority away
(00:22:27) The right time is now
(00:24:55) Healing is about showing up authentically
(00:25:48) No one is coming to save you
(00:27:42) Accountability is key
(00:28:47) Healing takes time

Key Takeaways: 

"There's a disconnect between you creating the life you want and you staying where you are."

"The greatest changes that we wanted in our lives from a Christian perspective are largely hands-off."

DISCLAIMER: I am not a licensed psychologist, medical doctor, or health care professional and my services do not replace the care of psychologists, doctors or other healthcare professionals. All opinions expressed here are my own. If you feel you are in any danger of harming yourself please call 911. I am not providing health care, medical or nutritional therapy services, or attempting to diagnose, treat, prevent or cure any physical, mental or emotional issue, disease or condition. All opinions are my own and based on my personal lived experience.

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