Embracing Change: Breaking Free from Limiting Beliefs

podcast February 19, 2024

Episode 148

This podcast episode delves into the importance of challenging limiting beliefs for women of color to unlock their full potential. Santana Innis, a master certified coach, discusses the significance of identifying and questioning these beliefs.

One common limiting belief Santana mentions is the notion that women of color must work twice as hard to achieve half as much. This belief stems from experiences of discrimination and inequality, particularly in the workplace. However, Santana emphasizes that this belief is not inherent or true; it is a belief system that can be challenged and changed.

To challenge limiting beliefs, Santana suggests first identifying them. Women of color need to recognize beliefs that may hinder their progress, such as feelings of unworthiness or doubts about their capabilities. Once identified, it is important to explore the origins of these beliefs. Santana encourages individuals to examine why they hold these beliefs and how societal expectations or personal experiences have influenced them.

Santana also highlights the importance of acknowledging the fear and vulnerability associated with challenging these beliefs.

By challenging and freeing themselves from limiting beliefs, women of color can tap into their power and embrace their worthiness and capabilities. This process involves self-reflection, self-compassion, and a willingness to question and let go of beliefs that no longer serve them. Ultimately, by challenging these beliefs, women of color can create new narratives and pathways that align with their true potential and aspirations.

This episode covers:

[00:05:31] A journey of mindfulness.

[00:19:02] Limiting beliefs and self-doubt.

[00:23:09] Confirmation bias and cognitive brain science.

[00:27:17-00:27:28] Taking a pause for opportunity.

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Self-Limiting Beliefs

A journey of mindfulness.

Mindfulness is awareness of one’s internal states and surroundings and can help people avoid destructive or automatic habits and responses by learning to observe their thoughts, emotions, and other present-moment experiences without judging or reacting to them..

Santana Innis: “I’m the daughter of a first generation Afro-Latino growing up in the inner city struggling with mental health, anxiety and knew there had to be another way. I found my first Thich Nhat Hanh book, The Miracles of Mindfulness. and had my new therapist which started a journey that’s been going on for a decade. A journey of answering the call to always go inward when something hurts, don’t hide, look inside.“

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This journey led Santana to “answer the call to align her work life with her life’s purpose”.

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Limiting beliefs and self-doubt.

Limiting beliefs are self-imposed ideas or thoughts that hold individuals back from achieving their goals or living their best life. These beliefs are often deeply ingrained and can be difficult to recognize or challenge. Limiting beliefs can take many forms, such as: “I’m not good enough.”

Santana Innis: “Especially as women of color we grow up in struggle often then going into the workplace, you got to work twice as hard, three times as hard to get half as far sometimes. If it doesn’t hurt, if I’m not bleeding, if I’m not stressed to the max, did I really achieve anything? It is a belief system, it’s something that we have control over. And so the ways that we start to work with that in coaching is first of all, we need to identify that it is number one, something we think. Just get it out there. I think this.”

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Practice the Pause

Confirmation bias and cognitive brain science.

Bianca shares what this year is about for her and, the potential of its impact.

Santana Innis: “The next thing I do is I ask people to imagine what would your life be like if you didn’t think this? Look for examples, look around and see someone that you admire, someone that has something that you want, that’s accomplished something that you dream of out loud or really quiet in your heart and say, okay, do I think they believe this same thing? Probably not. Cognitive brain science tells us that once you believe something, your brain gets real busy trying to maintain that status quo because brains are expensive energetically. They’re like 2% of your body mass, your weight, but it takes 20% of the energy that you consume. So we conserve our energy through confirmation bias. We will look for proof that something we believe is true. Fake it till you make it. And then what is your brain going to do? It’s going to get busy looking for proof that it’s true.”

“Fake it to you make it” is a positive thing when you’re telling your brain to believe you can.

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Taking a pause for opportunity.

Santana shares how pausing and breathing correlate.

Santana Innis: “So the power in the pause is that in that space, we have opportunity. The opportunity in the pause, pause is a beautiful word because to take a pause means to create this sense of spaciousness. So that could literally be, I’m burnt out, I need a sabbatical, right? Oh, things are really rough right now. I’m going to take a mental health day. Or I’m going to call out sick because I’m not feeling well. Taking that pause that you need helps you to come back stronger. You can even take a pause in a single moment, mindfulness. If you’re in a conversation with a manager and they’re saying something problematic or crazy, or you just got denied a promotion or, or, or, or, or, or difficult information comes your way at work, in your love life, in your relationship with your parents, wherever it happens, when you can create a pause between the stimulus and your reaction to it, You open opportunity. Take a breath. Whatever it is, notice. take a few breaths, create that pause, because then you have the opportunity to act and not react.”

Pause. Breath. Welcome what’s meant for you.

We underestimate the power of pausing as a way to grow.

Noteworthy Quotes

00:00:39-00:00:49 “My purpose on this planet is to reduce suffering in self and others.”
00:20:55-00:21:05 – “Do you know how it’s keeping you down? Let’s fill in the blank.”
00:24:02-00:24:13 – “I’m going to tell you this thing that we’ve been believing is not getting us where we’re going.”

About Santa Inniss

Santana’s story began in the inner city with two parents doing their best. Without sugarcoating it— Santana experienced extreme childhood adversity, and her journey has taken many turns since then. She became the first person in her family to graduate from university or grad school, receiving her BSc from Columbia University and MSc from Northwestern University. She navigated a successful career in major communications agencies, non-profits, and tech. As a multi-ethnic, neurodivergent, first-generation American– most of her experiences in climbing the ladder were laden with ‘isms’ and oh-so square-peg-round-hole. Inspired to smooth the paths of those coming up after her, she began advocating for folks through DEI leadership. She was successful on paper: she got the titles, the salary, and progressive leadership. But something felt deeply off.

In her decade-long personal development journey, she explored mindfulness, meditation, traditional and psychedelic-assisted therapy, mindful self-compassion, and many other modalities. In 2021, she received the Transmission of the Five Mindfulness Trainings in the Plum Village Zen Buddhist tradition. The more she did inner work, the more she found the corporate hustle incompatible with her humanity.

In 2023, she answered the call to align her work life with her life’s purpose. She waved bye-bye to success on paper, and today, she has the privilege to coach humans along their paths to greater alignment and freedom from the beliefs that limit them. She tells her story in hopes that it may be of service to even one person.

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