Eff Them Kids! Why Choosing Your Spouse FIRST Actually Makes You a BETTER Parent | Ep. 345

Inspired by DeDe Thomas’s jaw-dropping declaration at the 1% Conference (“Eff them kids!”), this power couple unpacks why the most radical thing you can do for your children is to prioritize your marriage FIRST. They reveal their deeply personal “Dino Moment” ritual, confess how a forgotten homework folder nearly hijacked their reconnection, and break down the alarming rise of “Grey Divorce” among couples over 50 who sacrificed their relationship on the altar of parenthood.

If you’ve ever felt guilty for wanting a date night that doesn’t involve Costco or a kid’s volleyball schedule, this episode is your permission slip. Snooks and Lovey share hard-won wisdom on how to keep the spark alive while navigating the chaos of raising children — from regular check-ins and emotional intimacy to the simple power of couch time. They lay out a clear family hierarchy (God → Spouse → Children) and explain why your kids actually need to see you choose each other. Because one day, those kids will change their address without a second thought — and you’ll be left staring at a stranger across the dinner table if you haven’t done the work.

Whether you’re newlyweds expecting your first baby or empty nesters trying to find each other again, this episode delivers the wake-up call your marriage needs. Packed with real talk, raw vulnerability, and actionable advice you can implement tonight, Snooks and Lovey prove once again why they’re the couple you didn’t know you needed in your corner. Hit play, share this with your partner, and get ready to fight FOR your marriage — not just survive it.

🗝️ Key Takeaways

1. Your marriage is the foundation — When you prioritize your spouse, the whole family benefits

2. Kids will leave — They’ll change their address without a second thought; make sure you still know who’s sitting across from you

3. Grey Divorce is preventable — It starts with neglecting your marriage during the child-rearing years

4. Costco is NOT a date night — Intentional quality time means dedicated couple time, not errands together

5. Model what you want your kids to replicate — Children learn about healthy relationships by watching yours

6. The “Dino Moment” principle — Protect your rituals of connection; don’t let parenting duties hijack your intimacy