Orgasms aren’t the best part of sex – Christine

Christine inhabits a sexual landscape that includes orgies, bondage, non-monogamy, skilled play partners, and sex-positive parties. She talks about a surprising struggle: how dissociation and OCD impact her ability to orgasm, even while having lots of fun.

Christine Wild is the host of the podcast Running Wild With Christine.  She is also the author of the book “Just Bad Timing.”

You can find her at:

Website – https://justbadtiming.com

Podcast – anchor.fm/runningwildwithchristine

Twitter – https://twitter.com/christinewild

Instagram – https://www.instagram.com/christinewild_

Christine is a 29-year-old, cisgender female. She describes herself as white, bisexual, non-monogamous, and in a committed relationship. She grew up in Switzerland, spent summers in Croatia, and now lives in Canada.

Bookmark moments:

• (4:08) Christine shares her first memories of sexual pleasure, with a recurring summer house love from ages 8-15. She tells the story of losing her virginity to him.
• (11:09) She grew up in a “prim and proper, but open” single mom household in Switzerland. Sex Ed was the usual condom and banana; there was also a kind of Planned Parenthood though.
• (15:51) Her summer love gets a real girlfriend. From 16-18, she has a good amount of unmemorable sex before finding someone to accidentally date as a hot fuck-buddy twice her age.
• (20:43) Christine moves to Vancouver for college and revels in new freedom. “That’s when the fun really started.” She racks up numbers but doesn’t have her first orgasm until age 23.
• (22:55) She talks about her first orgasm, difficulty orgasming, OCD, and how being disconnected from her body got in the way for a long time, and ironically, being emotionally drained by school and an unhealthy partnership finally overwhelmed her mind’s control.
• (30:40) Orgies! Plus non-monogamy, sex parties, BDSM, and MDMA.
• (34:35) Christine talks about relationship agreements and navigating a committed, non-monogamous relationship which emerged from sex party play. She compartmentalizes her non-primary relationships, like the person she sees only for BDSM.
• (43:40) Christine shares how being OCD and “high potential” shape her life and her sex life.
• (47:43) She wants to have kids but is also concerned about how it would impact her sex life.
• (51:00) Participation at sex parties can look like all different things, and can provide new ways to give and receive pleasure.
• (1:00:00) Things she’ll never do again, empowerment lessons from bondage, faking orgasms, achieving orgasms, oral, kink, smell, taste, talk, bodies, and other rapid-fire questions.

The Lowdown (56:10)

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