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47. How to Toot Your Horn, Rhea Wong, Founder of Rhea Wong Consulting

podcast March 9, 2023

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How can we risk, put ourselves out there, and even be willing to bomb as a comedian?

 

For this Women of Color Rise podcast, Analiza talks with Rhea Wong, Founder of Rhea Wong Consulting, Author of Get that Money Honey, Host of Non-Profit Lowdown, and Aspiring Comedian. Rhea shares how as a comedian she had an audience of just her family and parents and told sex jokes and it bombed in a big way. But even with this low moment, Rhea was able to shake it off and continue to get back on stage. Rhea’s ability to shake off mistakes is one of her super powers she has used throughout her career as Executive Director of Breakthrough New York and now a leader in the New York nonprofit community helping nonprofits raise money. 

How does Rhea pick herself up and continue to get back on stage and toot her horn? There are 7 steps:

  • Step 1: Get out of your head and stop replaying the moment

    • We’re either in survival or executive mode, and most of the time (70%) in survival mode. Get out of this mode by taking a breath and finding space to disrupt the narrative.

  • Step 2: Name the feeling. Not, “I am stressed” but “I feel stressed.”

  • Step 3: Feel the feeling in your body. 

    • For example, sadness can feel like a heaviness in the heart. Anger can be accompanied by a tension in the arms, neck, or shoulders. 

  • Step 4: Check your assumptions – is it true that everyone will think you’re a failure?

  • Step 5: Practice self-compassion.

    • Ask yourself, “Would you let anyone talk to your best friend the way that you are talking to yourself?”

  • Step 6: Keep putting yourself out there. 

    • Orientation is not, “I’m great,” or “I’m the best.” Instead, it’s about helping people. “I’ve figured out some things and can share.”

    • Let go of people saying no. ”If you’re not interested, that’s ok.” 

    • You have no control over other people. And if they are not kind to you, then they aren’t your people or people you should care about.

  • Step 7: Know that your value is derived not by what you do or your work (which leads to overworking) but you have value just by being you. 

 

Get full show notes and more information here: 

https://analizawolf.com/ep-47-how-to-toot-your-horn-rhea-wong-founder-of-rhea-wong-consulting

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