384: John Gray on The # 1 Mistake Destroying Your Love Life( Backed my Science)

“You have to also see there’s good and bad in this world. There are things that work and things that don’t work, but there’s also one perspective that everything is exactly perfect”.

In this episode of SoulTalk, we’re thrilled to welcome back John Gray on a special Valentine’s Day edition, the renowned relationship expert and author of the best-selling book: Men Are from Mars, Women Are from Venus. With decades of experience in counseling couples and guiding individuals on how to navigate the complexities of relationships, John returns to the podcast to share invaluable insights on creating lasting love and deeper connections.

John takes us through the essential stages of a relationship, from the excitement of attraction to the challenges of commitment, revealing how our emotional and hormonal responses shape our connections. He explains how attraction, uncertainty, and commitment each play vital roles in the evolution of a partnership and offers strategies for couples to avoid sabotaging behaviors, such as rushing into intimacy or seeking constant reassurance.

He also dives into the science behind love, exploring how hormones like testosterone, estrogen, and prolactin impact emotional intimacy and sexual attraction. Along the way, John emphasizes the importance of polarity in maintaining desire and how men and women can better understand each other’s needs to foster a deeper, more fulfilling relationship.

Listen to this episode and learn how to navigate the stages of relationships, understand the science of love and attraction, avoid common relationship pitfalls, and cultivate a lasting connection built on mutual understanding, respect, and intimacy.

Timestamps:

• (00:01:59) – Differences between men and women in handling stress, emotions, and communication.
• (00:07:08) – Modern lifestyle changes that have impacted traditional relationship dynamics.
• (00:16:11) – Importance of small gestures, emotional safety, and balancing independence with interdependence.
• (00:23:39) – How unresolved childhood traumas affect relationships.
• (00:32:44) – The five stages of relationship.
• (00:45:28) – How men deal with uncertainties.
• (00:52:18) – Strategies for maintaining attraction.

Some Questions I Ask:

What is the real secret to your success?

How much did karma and grace play into your success?

What was the moment that made you leave the monkhood?

How did you stay positive in the face of uncertainty?

Does everyone have a soulmate?

Are there  certain phases or stages that you’ve seen in a relationship?

In This Episode You Will Learn:

How to understand the five key stages of relationships to help build lasting love.

How to manage stress in a relationship to avoid common relationship misunderstandings.

The importance of maintaining masculine-feminine polarity as an essential tool for sustaining relationship passion.

How the science of love and commitment influence attraction, bonding, and long-term relationship success.

Discover why rushing commitment, seeking constant reassurance, and neglecting emotional safety can sabotage a relationship.

How unresolved childhood wounds often shape emotional reactions, attachment styles, and relationship patterns.

LINKS

JOHN GRAY’S URL:   https://www.marsvenus.com

JOHN GRAY’S PREVIOUS SOULTALK EPISODES:  http://podcast.kuteblackson.com/272-dr-john-gray-on-the-secrets-to-having-a-great-relationship-and-sex-life

http://podcast.kuteblackson.com/359-john-gray-on-beyond-mars-and-venus-never-before-shared-secrets-to-creating-success

https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/dr-john-gray-understanding-the-biochemistry-of/id1349934168?i=1000507578181

https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/john-gray-recipe-for-an-amazing-sex-life/id1349934168?i=1000549784038

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