#285: 3 Mistakes Love Avoidants Make in Dating

Is your fear of intimacy keeping you from the love you want?

In this episode of Black Girls Heal, we’re diving deep into love avoidance—what it is, how it shows up, and the mistakes that keep us from building healthy, connected relationships. If you find yourself pulling away when things get too good, struggling to be vulnerable, or avoiding dating altogether, you’re not alone. These patterns often come from past trauma and a desire to protect ourselves, but they can also block the very intimacy we’re craving.

Whether you’re just starting to explore this part of your healing or you’ve been working on it for a while, this episode offers real talk and real tools to support your journey.

In this episode, we cover…

• 02:43 The most common mistakes love avoidants make in relationships
• 05:35 How trauma creates defense mechanisms that block intimacy
• 14:59 Mistake #1: Getting spooked when things are going well
• 23:20 Mistake #2: Struggling to be emotionally vulnerable
• 30:07 Mistake #3: Avoiding dating altogether
• 36:25 Final reflections and steps to move forward

Resources mentioned in the episode:

• Episode 284: 3 Dating Mistakes to Avoid As A Love Addict: https://www.blackgirlsheal.org/podcast/284-dating-mistakes
• How to Pick Partners for Love Addicts book: blackgirlsheal.org/books
• Ready to heal your Love Addiction & Love Avoidance? Join The Recovery School, my signature coaching program to help you become love balanced, love available, and fulfilled: blackgirlsheal.org/love-addiction-recovery
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