254 Harvard Psychologist Tal Ben-Shahar’s Guide to Being Happy with an Imperfect Life

THE SHOW

Dr. Tal Ben-Shahar, Harvard-trained psychologist and author of multiple bestsellers including Happier, joins Lisa to explore the psychology and habits that lead to happiness in modern times. He uncovers the myths that keep successful people miserable and why our pursuit of the next achievement isn’t the answer. He shares his personal journey from academic achievement to profound unhappiness, breaks down the difference between experiencing emotions and being consumed by them, and offers a counterintuitive approach to emotional health through passive observation. The conversation covers everything from the achievement trap and social media’s impact on happiness to practical parenting strategies and the future of leadership in a post-pandemic world.

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TOPICS COVERED

Why successful people often feel secretly empty

The myth of constant happiness and toxic positivity culture

Passive observation: witnessing emotions without being consumed by them

The psychology of “enough” and escaping achievement addiction

Why fighting your feelings makes them persist

The role of curiosity in emotional wellbeing and personal growth

Social media’s impact on perfectionism and life satisfaction

How to create space between stimulus and response during overwhelming moments

The difference between hard work and effort in personal development

Turning emotional dissatisfaction into positive life changes

Modern loneliness epidemic and the paradox of digital connection

Building authentic relationships based on values rather than demographics

The symbiotic relationship between leadership and management

Why power and control are ineffective leadership tools

Parenting strategies for raising emotionally intelligent children

The importance of modeling emotional regulation for kids

How to develop discipline without relying on motivation or willpower

Why retirement isn’t the answer to work dissatisfaction

The value of experimentation and changing periods to question marks in life