242: Come as you are with Emily Nogaski

Welcome Dr. Emily Nagoski, PhD, fellow podcaster and award-winning author of the New York Times bestseller, Come As You Are: the surprising new science that will transform your sex life. 

Dr.Nagoski’s mission is to help us live with confidence and joy in our bodies! Together, Emily, George and Laurie want to help people have a healthy view of sex and challenge people’s assumptions about what they believe and where they get stuck. We all see EFT as a way to help couples deal with the difficult feelings around sex where we often are anxious about hurting our partner’s feelings or fearful of being found sexually inadequate.

To help us understand desire, Emily tells us about where to find our brakes (all the good reasons not to be turned on… potential threats) and accelerators (everything we think, believe, imagine & touch, taste, smell, hear that has sexual connotations.)  Fun topics in this podcast: look at your genitals! (if you want to make friends.) She and George talk about the complicated relationship men have with their penises. Nagoski uses a hedgehog visualization to gracefully accept our feelings around sex. Ever wonder why your body may be turned on but you really don’t want sex? Emily shares the concept of non-concordant sex – when our body’s arousal and subjective sexual feelings don’t align.

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Find Emily!!!:

book – Come As You Are

workbook –The Come as You Are Workbook new book!! – Burnout: the secret to unlocking the stress cycle podcast – the feminist survival podcast 2020