208: Exhaustion Kills Intimacy

Do you ever reach the end of the day feeling emotionally drained—and then wonder why you have no desire for sex?

In this episode, Dr. Sonia explores how the invisible emotional and mental labor women carry throughout the day follows them into the bedroom, quietly shutting down desire and intimacy. This isn’t a libido problem—it’s a capacity problem.

You’ll learn why desire cannot exist in a stressed nervous system, how “to-do list sex” and emotional overgiving lead to resentment and numbness, and why pushing through exhaustion only deepens disconnection. Dr. Sonia also shares how intimacy actually begins outside the bedroom, with rest, relief, and support—not pressure.

✨ In this episode, we discuss: 💎 Why emotional exhaustion kills desire 💎 The invisible load women carry—and how it affects intimacy 💎 How sex becomes performative when your tank is empty 💎 The nervous system truth about libido and stress 💎 How to talk to your partner about desire without blame 💎 What desire truly needs to return—naturally

If sex has started to feel like one more thing on your to-do list, this episode offers reassurance, clarity, and a compassionate path forward.

👉 Learn more about Own Your Sexuality Now (OYSN) in the show notes.