005: Rape Culture – It Wasn’t Your Fault – Manyi Anabor (Part 1)

One of many challenges that women face in society is the existence of Rape Culture, an environment where sexual violence is normalized and minimizes the seriousness of such acts. Some people even say that it’s the victim’s fault for getting raped. It’s time to take action against these social norms.Rape Culture is prevalent and must be stopped. Let’s end victim blaming and hold people accountable for their actions. And for the survivors, always remember that it’s never your fault.

In this episode, Manyi Anabor joins us to share her experiences with child sexual and physical abuse.

This is part one of a two-part episode. Tune in and look forward to part two.

[00:01 – 06:04] Opening Segment

• I introduce our guest, Manyi Anabor

[06:05 – 27:40] Sexual Abuse Victim

• Manyi talks about her experiences with child sexual and physical abuse

• Grew up in an extended household
• They hired a house helper that was actually a sexual predator

• Manyi shares how that experience has affected her day-to-day life
• • She struggled to express herself freely and to speak up
• Study shows that sexual abuse victims are more likely to become victims again later in their life.
• • She got abused again by her uncle, and later, a close friend after she moved to the UK
• She became distrustful of people – both men and women
• • Relationships with men became a nightmare for her
• We talk about the need for Sex Education in the African community

[27:41 – 32:32] PTSD

• With all the trauma from her experiences, Manyi shares how it has affected her outlook in life before and now
• Please look forward to part two. Thank you for listening!

Tweetable Quotes:

“As a teenager growing up, even to my early 20s, I would never speak up for myself at all. Even if I was in a situation in which something happened openly, and it was obvious, it was clear that it wasn’t my fault. It had nothing to do with me, and someone jumped up and said it was my fault. I would literally say nothing, and it was a very scary place to be in.” – Manyi Anabor

Resources Mentioned:

• Cactus in a Calabash by Manyi Anabor
• Storm not Strong Enough by Manyi Anabor

You can connect with Manyi on Twitter, Instagram, or Facebook. To learn more about her, you can visit her website at www.manyianabor.com

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