Why Are Men Checking Out of Church? | The Holy and Hood Podcast 02×09

Episode Summary:

In this episode of Holy and Hood, the crew tackles a hot topic—why so many men feel disconnected from church. They kick things off with some hilarious Bible hot takes (John had a slick mouth, and Samson was just nasty for that honeycomb stunt) before diving deep into the emotional and cultural barriers that push men away from faith communities. They break down the tension between authentic worship and manufactured emotionalism, why modern churches sometimes feel more like a production than a place of purpose, and what men actually need to stay engaged in their faith.

Key Discussion Points:

1. Bible Hills We’ll Die On – The wildest takes on biblical characters
2. Is Worship Too Emotional? – Why men check out when faith feels forced
3. Purpose vs. Production – Have churches become more about optics than God?
4. The Power of Biblical Leadership – Why men need to see real, respectable role models
5. The Call to Holiness – The church doesn’t need to be “tougher,” it needs to be real

HIGHLIGHT SENTENCES (and where to find them):

[00:05:14] “John the disciple was out here talking spicy—and now it’s canon.”

[00:27:42] “If you aren’t moved beyond yourself in worship, you don’t know God.”

[00:39:20] “Men aren’t looking for a coffee bar during worship, they’re looking for purpose.” [00:50:08] “The problem isn’t ‘soft church’—it’s the lack of calling people to a real standard.”

[01:02:55] “Church should never be about catering. It should be about calling.”

FUNNY QUOTES (and where to find them):

[00:07:30] “John really said, ‘Jesus loved me more than y’all’—and published it.”

[00:19:50] “You don’t just flip tables and nobody gets hit. Somebody took an L that day.”

[00:34:10] “Samson really pulled honey out of a dead lion and said, ‘Dinner’s served!’”

[00:47:40] “Jesus was a carpenter, but what if his furniture was mid?”

[01:14:11] “Pastor swinging from the rafters on Easter like it’s a Chris Brown concert.”

Timestamps

[00:00] – Intro & Catching Up

[05:14] – Bible Hills We’ll Die On (John Was Wildin’)

[14:57] – Is Worship Too Emotional? (Coffee Bars for Men?!)

[27:42] – What’s Actually Pushing Men Away from Church?

[39:20] – Biblical Leadership & The Respect Factor

[50:08] – The Problem with Soft Faith (Back to Holiness)

[1:02:55] – Final Thoughts: Stop Catering, Start Leading

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