Who Raised You?

Episode 2 Who Raised You?

Let’s have a conversation about learned behaviors and generational dysfunction! 

 

Songs

Lalah Hathaway

American singer

Song Mirror

 

Lalah Hathaway mirror lyrics – Google Search

 

https://youtu.be/qiT9lbw8rY4

 

How to spot a toxic person in your life, SELF-reflection, are you the toxic person in someone’s life

 

 

You leave feeling emotionally	exhausted after an encounter with them
You feel as though you’re walking on eggshells around them frequently
They comment on the smallest flaw or perceived imperfections
Nothing you can say or do is good enough
You or others are blamed for the negative feelings and circumstances in their life
They violate your boundaries and thy never respect a “NO”

 

Get It Together

Song by India.Arie

 

india arie get it together lyrics – Google Search

 

https://youtu.be/V7LwmMTD3B4

 

Repeat After Me: 

Today I vow to be a cycle breaker in my family. The buck stops with me and the healing in my family starts with me. 

I am open and willing to see myself, learn myself, and accept myself beyond what I have been taught to know about me.

 

 

 

A cycle breaker is someone who recognizes harmful or dysfunctional traits that exist in the culture of their family and decides to discard these traits and trade them in for something different. This can be life changing and liberating work that unfortunately may trigger a negative response in other family members.

 

Cycle breakers: Those who come from childhoods with struggles such as abuse, dysfunction, control, blame, shame, addiction, or neglect… but they break the cycle.

 

https://www.racheous.com/respectful-parenting/cycle-breakers/

 

 

 

To be a cycle breaker means to stand apart from the family and forge a new path away from the trauma and the heartbreak that keeps spreading over-and-over again.Apr 12, 2021

 

Choose to be a cycle breaker | Practical Growth

 

I Grew Up With Family Dysfunction, But This Is How I’m Breaking The Cycle

 

Be your own advocate. One thing I’ve learned is that people will treat you how you let them treat you. …

Listen to the friends you trust. …

Get out of the bubble. …

Decide what love means for you. …

Set boundaries.

 

 

 

Set Boundaries, Find Peace: A Guide to Reclaiming Yourself

The Set Boundaries Workbook: Practical Exercises for Understanding Your Needs and Setting Healthy Limits

Nedra Glover Tawwab, Therapist on Instagram: “Knowing what you don’t want is excellent motivation.

 

Cycle breaking isn’t easy and it’s possible.

 

#nedranuggets”

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