The Big Confession & Texting Gremlins

We’ve all had that one date…the one that felt like lightning. Everything clicks, and before you know it, you’re imagining forever. But when you act on that high too quickly, reality can come crashing down hard.

This week, a listener shares: “Late at night, I had to get these thoughts off my mind. I told her I felt like I think I’d found my wife. She expressed that she was disappointed that I would say this after what she told me about moving too fast and that it was best we not see each other.”

In this episode, Damona breaks down what really happens when you come on too strong — and why even the most intense connection can’t be rushed. You’ll hear how fantasy thinking can override our better judgment, why texting late at night can sabotage a budding connection, and how to make amends when you’ve crossed a line. Most importantly, Damona offers real steps for recovery, both emotional and relational.

• The neuroscience behind why we overshare when we feel a spark
• How to tell if it’s a true connection or a fantasy projection
• Why texting your feelings late at night is rarely a good move
• What to say if you’ve overwhelmed someone with big emotions
• How to show up as your full self without rushing the process
• The one mistake people make after hearing someone’s boundary
• A script for taking accountability while leaving the door open

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