Modern Women vs Masculine Men? Dr. Sarah Fontenot Says “Your Trauma Is Blocking Love”

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Some conversations don’t just sound good… they shift you.

In this episode of The Love You Moore Show, I sat down with Dr. Sarah Fontenot (straight outta Saskatchewan, Canada) and we went all the way in on what’s REALLY breaking relationships in 2025.

We talked about:

• why so many people choose partners out of pressure, trauma, and fear

• the difference between high-earning and high-value

• how women can communicate needs without going to war

• why men feel like they have to stay “tough” and how that’s costing us

• and what it actually looks like to build peace, alignment, and a relationship rooted in God

And listen… when she broke down the “logic vs emotion” gap, and how masculinity and femininity collide when we don’t know how to repair conflict? Whew. It got REAL in that room.

If you’re dating, married, divorced, healing, or trying to do it right this time—this one is for you.

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00:00 – Why women choose relationships (pressure vs alignment)

02:15 – Willie’s “icebreaker” + relationship song moment

04:16 – Proposed to twice… why she said “hold up”

06:30 – “Talk is cheap” + vetting process shifting

08:12 – Breadcrumbs, therapy, and choosing yourself

08:48 – “40 is knocking” + success vs family question

10:37 – High earning women + attracting the man you say you want

12:18 – “Put your trauma down” (bars)

14:32 – If he falls off financially… will she still love him?

16:24 – Not demonizing women, nature, safety, and security

18:10 – What she won’t bring into her future relationship

19:50 – “I never saw my parents fight… so I didn’t learn repair”

21:35 – Cues, triggers, and emotional regulation (neck gets hot)

24:00 – Gottman’s Four Horsemen explained

26:06 – How women can communicate needs without conflict

28:14 – Men feeling unappreciated + staffing the home

29:31 – Hack for men: logic won’t work with emotion

32:42 – “Say sorry” without defensiveness (real-time example)

37:05 – Audience reaction: “We don’t care about the track record!”

41:30 – Boundaries + respect: what happens when she keeps going

45:04 – Femininity tests + why it’s really about safety

50:01 – Marriage feels like death sometimes (real talk)

52:03 – When vulnerability gets used in arguments

55:54 – Willie’s boundary: no late-night conflict, protect her heart

58:12 – Creating safety during conflict + repair

01:04:24 – How do we help Black men heal from “toughness”?

01:10:24 – “Do I still want marriage?” Vision for the next season

01:15:01 – Celibacy, choosing right, and honoring yourself

01:16:15 – Willie’s closing: reframe the pain, love you more

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