Ep. 12 Lanise Antoine Shelley: Bornday Reflections

This week I give reflections of my journey into the adoption community. October 17th is my birthday, so I am celebrating it in different ways. Many adoptees (including myself) find it hard to truly celebrate themselves, birthdays and holidays. These things can trigger scarcity and shame. I'd like to invite you to celebrate your worthy existence. If you take note of the bad, why not celebrate the small and large triumphs of the everyday. There are many aspects of my life that are not ideal at the moment, nonetheless I acknowledge that my life has value no matter my history.

REFERENCES:
Brene Brown:
Daring To Lead
Daring Greatly

Nap Ministry
https://thenapministry.wordpress.com/

Paola Matte
http://www.findingpaola.com/

Lacey Philips
https://tobemagnetic.com/

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ADOPTEE CONVERSATIONS WITH PARENTS:
14 through18, and episode 28, and 29.

WATCH PANELS:
https://www.facebook.com/USFCH/videos/806431379903046

BALDWIN'S ESSAY ON "WHITENESS":
https://bannekerinstitute.fas.harvard.edu/files/bannekerinstitute/files/on_being_white.and_other_lies_baldwin_0.pdf

HISTORY “Colored”:
https://www.npr.org/sections/codeswitch/2014/03/30/295931070/the-journey-from-colored-to-minorities-to-people-of-color

NYC ARTICLE ON THE USE OF "BIPOC":
https://www.nytimes.com/article/what-is-bipoc.html

RECOURSES ON HOW TO TALK ABOUT RACE:
https://www.laniseantoineshelley.com/post/copy-of-literacy-program-for-syrian-girls-refugees