Becoming a Shame-Free Woman: Desire, Pleasure & Personal Liberation | For Mannerless Women

In this episode of For Mannerless Women, Adelle Onyango sits down with writer, filmmaker, and cultural commentator Abigail Arunga for an expansive, deeply honest conversation about shame, desire, pleasure, and what it truly means to arrive as a liberated woman. Together, they explore how women are socialised to shrink themselves, emotionally, physically, sensually and what it takes to begin unlearning that conditioning. From confronting internalised shame to reclaiming pleasure, body autonomy, and self-trust, this episode invites listeners to reflect on their own relationship with desire and personal freedom. This conversation also weaves in:

• Why pleasure is often framed as “frivolous” for women
• How religion, culture, and colonial history shape sexual shame
• The difference between sexuality, sensuality, and embodiment
• Why personal liberation is inseparable from collective freedom
• Learning to listen to your body without guilt or apology

This episode is thoughtful, reflective, and empowering, a must-listen for women on a journey of self-knowledge, healing, and unapologetic self-expression.

Listener discretion advised: Mature themes are discussed.

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