A MAN is not a PLAN (part 2) Let's have a conversation about SEX

Anorgasmia is delayed, infrequent or absent orgasms — or significantly less-intense orgasms — after sexual arousal and adequate sexual stimulation. Women who have problems with orgasms and who feel significant distress about those problems may be diagnosed with anorgasmia.Apr 30, 2022

Source: Anorgasmia in women – Symptoms and causes – Mayo Clinic

References

https://kuscholarworks.ku.edu/bitstream/handle/1808/4517/Stroupe_ku_0099M_10161_DATA_1.pdf?isAllowed=y&sequence=1

5-10% of women have never orgasmed [though many of these women may later in life.] [5]

Elisabeth A. Lloyd

The Case of the Female Orgasm: Bias in the Science of Evolution

According to one study, 12% of women aged 17-28 have never had an orgasm.

Who’s Pretending – Fake Orgasm Statistics

59% of women have faked an orgasm. [12]

25% of men have faked an orgasm. [13]

67% of women who had ever faked an orgasm no longer fake them. [12]

Study of over 1000 English-speaking women 18-94 published 2019

Women who continued to fake orgasms were more likely to indicate embarrassment talking about sex with their partner in explicit ways and were less likely to agree that they and their partner are able to talk specifically about what makes sex more pleasurable for them. More than half (55.4%) of women reported they had wanted to communicate with a partner regarding sex but decided not to; the most common reasons were not wanting to hurt a partner’s feelings (42.4%), not feeling comfortable going into detail (40.2%), and embarrassment (37.7%).

Greater self-reported sexual satisfaction was associated with more comfortable sexual communication. Study findings and implications for professionals are discussed in the context of adult sexual development and learning. This includes growing more comfortable talking with a partner about sexual preferences and sexual pleasure.

https://link.springer.com/article/10.1007/s10508-019-01493-0

Journal of SEX research

Men’s and Women’s Reports of Pretending Orgasm

Charlene L. Muehlenhard & Sheena K. Shippee

Pages 552-567 | Published online: 25 Aug 2009

Frequently reported reasons were that orgasm was unlikely, they wanted sex to end, and they wanted to avoid negative consequences (e.g., hurting their partner’s feelings) and to obtain positive consequences (e.g., pleasing their partner). Results suggest a sexual script in which women should orgasm before men, and men are responsible for women’s orgasms. Charlene L. Muehlenhard & Sheena K. Shippee (2010) Men’s and Women’s Reports of Pretending Orgasm, The Journal of Sex Research, 47:6, 552-567, DOI: 10.1080/00224490903171794

https://www.tandfonline.com/doi/full/10.1080/00224490903171794

Sexual Fantasies and Orgasm

20% of women have orgasmed just thinking about their favorite fantasy.

The same is true for 10% of men.

Source Justin J. Lehmiller

Tell Me What You Want: The Science of Sexual Desire and How It Can Help You Improve Your Sex Life

Dr. Justin J. Lehmiller (Ph.D., Purdue University) is a Research Fellow at The Kinsey Institute and author of the book Tell Me What You Want: The Science of Sexual Desire and How It Can Help You Improve Your Sex Life. He is an award-winning educator, having been honored three times with the Certificate of Teaching Excellence from Harvard University, where he taught for several years. Dr. Lehmiller is also a prolific researcher and scholar, having published more than 40 pieces of academic writing to date, including articles in some of the leading journals on sex and relationships, as well as two textbooks.