Ep 063: Give Yourself Permission to Do the New Thing

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💬 Episode Summary

Hey sis. This week’s episode is a heart-to-heart. I’m showing up a little late (your girl’s flying solo on production), and I’m letting you know we’re taking a June break from full episodes.

But this episode is the one if you’ve ever felt like you needed permission to enjoy your life. I talk about healing through joy, how play is part of reparenting, and how that self-doubt you feel isn’t truth—it’s programming.

If you've been stuck in “who am I to…?” energy, this one’s your reminder that you don’t need permission. Just go.

⏱️ Time-Stamped Chapters

[01:55] Late But Here
Why this episode dropped late and how juggling travel, RESOLVE, and podcasting is a lot—but I’m still showing up.

[02:21] June Break Ahead
Announcing the June hiatus and encouraging you to catch up on past episodes during this time.

[02:50] Go Back and Listen Again
The wisdom hits different the second time—revisit older episodes and notice what new truths show up.

[03:19] Mulch & Memorial Day
A quick life update: mulch delivery, gardening joy, and stepping into something new just for me.

[04:09] This Week’s Topic: Permission
This episode centers around giving yourself permission to do something new—something joyful and healing.

[06:36] Recognizing Internalized Voices
I name the internal voice of doubt and realize—it’s my mother’s. That programming still lingers, even during joy.

[08:21] Joy Is Part of Healing
Expression and play are not extra—they're medicine. Depression lifts when we start to express and explore joy.

[10:49] Creating New Data
Healing means gathering evidence through experience—doing things that build trust in yourself, even when it’s scary.

[12:46] Redefining Without Permission
When no one gave you the authority to be you, you’ve got to crown yourself. That’s where the grief and power collide.

[14:13] From Doubt to Knowing
The inner “I don’t know anything” voice is a lie. And we prove it wrong by doing the damn thing—again and again.

[15:36] The Grief of Becoming
Becoming yourself brings grief too—letting go of old identities that were never really yours to begin with.

[16:55] What You Never Got
Doing joyful things can feel humiliating when you’ve never had someone affirm your desires. That’s real—and it hurts.

[17:53] Feel It to Heal It
All those feelings you avoid? They surface through new experiences. That’s how healing works. It’s not optional.

[18:41] You’re Not Out of Place
Imposter syndrome isn’t about the room—it’s about old wounds. You’re not out of place. You’re just stretching.

[20:02] Community Normalizes Your Joy
Find your people. Whether it's gardening or anything else, being around folks who reflect your joy back to you matters.

[21:29] Collect Evidence That You’re Enough
Every new, joyful thing you try is proof that you’re not who they said you were. That’s how we break the cycle.

[21:59] You’re Not Alone
This healing journey can feel lonely. But I promise—you are not alone. This podcast is proof.

[22:58] Do It Just for You
Try something that feels good for you—even if it’s “frivolous.” Capitalism lied. Play is not a waste.

[23:58] Final Word & June Reminder
We’re on pause for June, but I’ll be back in July. In the meantime, take good care of yourself, with love an

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