262 – Why Modern Dating Feels Broken with Naza Shelley

In this episode, Naza Shelley, CEO and founder of Carpe Diem Dating, breaks down the biggest frustrations in modern dating—especially for Black women. As an attorney-turned-matchmaker, Naza shares her journey in building a dating app that prioritizes meaningful connections over endless swiping.

We dive into the realities of online dating, ghosting, and the disconnect between what dating apps promote versus what users actually want. Naza offers expert insights on navigating today’s dating scene, including how to approach dating with confidence and clarity.

Listeners will walk away with practical strategies for making real-life connections, setting clear relationship expectations, and shifting their dating mindset to attract better matches.

This episode is a must-listen for anyone tired of the dating games and looking for real love.

Follow Naza Shelley here:

Instagram: @carpedmboss & @carpedmdating Website: https://www.carpedmdating.com/ 

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Chapters 0:09  Welcome to This Week’s Episode 4:33 Housekeeping and Book Club Reminder 5:58 The State of Dating 6:10 Drag of the Week: Science Abandonment 9:10 Transitioning to Dating Apps 13:55 Reality Dating Shows 15:04 Focus on Black Women 16:50 The Competition for Black Women 22:41 The Imbalance in Dating Events 29:08 Techniques for Approaching Men 33:55 Dating Timetables and Communication 42:15 Wrap Up and Where to Find Naza