In this episode of Black Girl Burnout, Kelley revisits the idea of the Soft Lock-In as a gentler alternative to end-of-year hustle culture. Designed for moments of deep exhaustion and burnout, this conversation offers a compassionate December reset rooted in nervous system safety, realistic expectations, and care-first productivity.
Key Takeaways
- You don’t need to “finish the year strong” — you need a reset that supports your body, not pushes it.
- The Soft Lock-In centers gentle consistency, not discipline, shame, or hustle.
- Small, nervous-system-safe actions can create meaningful emotional and energetic relief.
Episode Highlights + Timestamps
- 00:00–03:00 — Reframing the “lock-in” and why hustle culture no longer fits this season
- 07:00–08:45 — Shifting from “fix your life” thinking to self-support and care
- 09:00–13:45 — The four pillars of the Soft Lock-In: soft structure, expectations, productivity, and rest
- 14:30–18:15 — Creating a simple December reset plan with one thing to finish, maintain, release, and rest around
Your Gentle Reset Invitation
As you move through the end of the year, try creating your own Soft Lock-In. Choose just one thing to finish, one thing to maintain, one thing to release, and one place where you’ll stop pushing yourself to have more energy than you do. Let this be an experiment in kindness — a reminder that you’re allowed to reset softly, without earning rest or proving your worth.
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