On this episode of Black Girl Burnout, Kelley explores the transformative power of play and how Black women can reclaim joy and resilience through active rest. In a world that constantly demands output and performance, Kelley breaks down why play isn’t just a luxury—it’s a necessity. She dives into the science of joy, the healing impact of non-productive rest, and the cultural pressure that often robs Black women of their right to be playful. With heartfelt honesty and practical insights, this episode is a powerful reminder that silliness, spontaneity, and delight are not just allowed, they’re essential for thriving.
Key Takeaways
- Active rest—joyful, non-productive activities—can boost creativity, reduce stress, and improve emotional resilience.
- Black women are uniquely in need of play due to chronic stress and societal expectations to perform strength and competence.
- Incorporating even five minutes of play into your day can help you reclaim joy, connection, and mental clarity.
Episode Timestamps
1:00 — What is active rest and why does it matter?
Kelley introduces the concept of play as a form of rest and outlines how it differs from traditional ideas of productivity.
4:00 — The science behind joyful living
Research shows that play lowers cortisol, raises endorphins, and supports cognitive flexibility—vital tools for navigating life’s stressors.
10:30 — How play creates emotional resets and connection
Play not only improves your mood but also enhances your relationships by making you more open and connected to others.
15:00 — Micro-moments of play that actually work
Kelley shares her go-to ideas for quick, joyful play: spontaneous dance breaks, coloring, stretching, and more.
23:00 — The courage to be silly and soft
By saying yes to small acts of joy, we challenge the narrative that Black women must always be strong. Play is a revolutionary act of healing.
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