In this episode of the Black Girl Burnout podcast, Kelley shares an honest check-in she calls The Getting My Life Together Toolkit. Instead of another rigid routine or “glow-up” plan, she offers the small, sustaining habits and mindset shifts that are actually helping her through life’s “life-ing.” From soft structure and nervous system routines to practical self-care rituals, Kelley invites you to build your own toolkit—one rooted in gentleness, intention, and capacity, not perfection.
KEY TAKEAWAYS
- Structure can be soft. Create routines that support you—not drain you—by honoring your real capacity, not your ambition.
- Habits can soothe your nervous system. Small grounding rituals like making your bed, dressing intentionally, and setting calm boundaries bring steadiness to your days.
- Dress for the energy you want. Even when working from home, wearing real clothes can signal self-respect and shift your mindset.
- Protect your peace before bed. Limiting dysregulating content at night helps your nervous system unwind and deepens rest.
EPISODE HIGHLIGHTS
- [00:00–03:00] A Real-Life Check-In: Kelley explains why she’s naming this season her “Getting My Life Together Toolkit” and shares what inspired it.
- [03:00–07:00] The Type A Recovery Plan: How she’s learning to make to-do lists that honor capacity rather than overachievement.
- [07:00–11:00] Nervous System Habits That Stick: From making her bed to red-light therapy, Kelley shares small routines that make her mornings calmer.
- [11:00–17:00] Dressing for Your Day: How shifting from hoodies to cozy two-piece sets has changed her energy and self-respect.
- [17:00–22:00] Protecting Peace at Night: Why she no longer watches intense or “dysregulating” shows after 7 p.m., and how it’s improving her sleep and calm.
- [22:00–28:00] Building Your Own Toolkit: Kelley invites listeners to reflect on what’s actually helping them through and share their own soft lock-in routines.
YOUR TURN
Take a few minutes today to build your own Getting My Life Together Toolkit.
Write down 3 small things—habits, tools, or mindset shifts—that help you feel more grounded or capable right now.
Then, share one of them with us on social media using #BlackGirlBurnout.
Your toolkit doesn’t have to be perfect—just supportive. That’s the real goal.
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