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“Grief doesn’t disappear when it’s ignored. It waits.”
Healing often begins in a softer place than we expect. It starts when we stop pushing our sadness away and allow ourselves to notice it without judgment. Avoiding grief can feel like survival, but it keeps us stuck. When we give our emotions space instead of rushing them or explaining them away, they begin to move. What once felt overwhelming starts to feel more understandable, more human.
Over time, this gentler way of being with ourselves changes things. As we practice meeting our feelings with care and patience, loneliness begins to loosen its hold. Not because the past no longer matters, but because we’re no longer facing it alone. Healing becomes less about fixing what was broken and more about learning how to hold ourselves with kindness, even in the midst of what still hurts.
In this episode, I’m answering your questions about grief, loneliness, and feeling emotionally stuck while healing the mother wound. We talk about why avoiding sadness keeps you stuck, how to create safety for your emotions, and what it means to actually let feelings move through your body. We also discuss estrangement from toxic family systems, releasing guilt, building family of choice, and why support is essential when healing feels overwhelming. If you’re ready to stop carrying this alone and start creating a life that feels lighter and more grounded, this episode is for you.
Topics Covered:
00:00 — Episode Snippet
00:21 — Welcome to The Black Mother Wound Podcast
02:33 — Q #1: How do you get unstuck from sadness and loneliness?
04:28 — Allow emotions instead of managing them away
06:31 — Using daily basics to create safety in your body and environment
09:07 — Why patience with yourself is essential for healing
11:24 — Q #2: Coping with grief after distancing from toxic family systems
12:53 — The grief of being the cycle breaker in your family
15:11 — Q #3: Do thoughts of self-harm still come up?
16:23 — Why believing you don’t matter is a trauma response
19:16 — Expanding support beyond the podcast and online spaces
21:03 — Being in “hell on earth”
23:14 — The pendulum metaphor
24:36 — Gratitude for the community and shared growth
DISCLAIMER: I am not a licensed psychologist, medical doctor, or health care professional and my services do not replace the care of psychologists, doctors or other healthcare professionals. All opinions expressed here are my own. If you feel you are in any danger of harming yourself please call 911. I am not providing health care, medical or nutritional therapy services, or attempting to diagnose, treat, prevent or cure any physical, mental or emotional issue, disease or condition. All opinions are my own and based on my personal lived experience.
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