Have you ever had a “what if” person… and you can’t tell if it’s God’s timing or an emotional trap?
In this episode, a listener writes in about a seven-year friendship that keeps circling back into something deeper. They’ve never kissed, she’s been abstinent for five years, and now — for the first time — their timing finally aligns to explore a relationship. But she’s torn: he’s warm, patient, and makes her feel safe… yet she’s afraid she’s been living more in fantasy than reality.
They’re long-distance, both navigating ADHD, and she’s trying to rebuild her faith while also wanting a partner who can lead spiritually — without performing faith just to keep her. So the real question becomes: is love and safety enough to take the risk, or is this a distraction that could derail her growth?
We talk about how to move forward with wisdom, how to check your “sober mind” when you’re already emotionally invested, and why you can’t keep someone in your life as a permanent what-if.
✨ What You’ll Hear
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Izzy’s letter to Glen after Sydney’s passing (bring tissues)
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Release Rest Remain update + the YouVersion Bible reading plan
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Listener email: the long-distance “what if” friendship turning serious
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ADHD, consistency, and what love looks like in real life
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Faith alignment, spiritual leadership, and moving with a sober mind
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Why “love is a risk” — and how to take it wisely
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Parenting + marriage questions: balance, devotionals, and real-life routines
💬 Join the Conversation
Have you ever carried a “what if” relationship for years?
What helped you decide to risk it — or finally let it go?
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📚 Resources & Links
Father Yourself First
https://www.amazon.com/Father-Yourself-First-Everything-Deserves/dp/1400252555
Release Rest Remain
https://a.co/d/ihBmSdO
Release Rest Remain Bible Reading Plan
https://www.bible.com/en/reading-plans/64646
Premarital Advantage
https://howmarriedareyoupodcast.mykajabi.com/offers/VAbsx8N2
Saturday Men’s Group (Black men, 7 a.m. PT)
https://us02web.zoom.us/j/81971875325?pwd=cY3k96A8j1b0WMLPHF5ym0bNSNaRdj.1
Patreon Community
https://www.patreon.com/HMAY
Yvette’s Email List
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The Biggest Story Affiliate links mentioned in this episode
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HMAY Amazon Storefront (affiliate)
https://www.amazon.com/shop/howmarriedareyou?ref_=cm_sw_r_apin_aipsfshop_0EGMQR9KJ94D8YGCDMV7&language=en-US