The Hidden Cost of Losing Yourself in Love
How do intelligent, capable women slowly lose themselves in relationships without even noticing? In this week’s Mid Week Tease, Adelle explores the subtle ways many women begin organising their lives around everyone else’s needs while quietly losing touch with their own. Drawing from psychology, personal experience, and insights from accredited psychologist Faith Guchu, this episode unpacks the difference between healthy compromise and self-abandonment, why women are often socialised to disappear inside love, and how to begin finding your way back to yourself. If you’ve ever looked around and wondered, “When did I stop being me?” this conversation is for you.
In this episode, we explore:
- Why losing yourself rarely happens overnight
- The difference between healthy intimacy and enmeshment
- Self-Expansion Theory and what happens when love replaces identity instead of expanding it
- Why women are often praised for self-sacrifice
- How to recognise when compromise has become self-abandonment
- Gentle ways to begin reconnecting with yourself
Join Our Upcoming Wellness Talk Divorce Care: When the Marriage Ends, Finding Yourself Again
If today’s episode resonated with you, join us for a deeper conversation with accredited psychologist Faith Guchu. Together we’ll explore:
- The Grief Nobody Talks About
- The Weight of Expectations
- Untangling Yourself From the Relationship
- Rebuilding Your Village
- Healing Before the Next Chapter
- Co-Parenting, Family & New Realities
- Rebuilding a Life You Love
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