In this week’s installment of the Betting on Yourself series, I’m sitting down with Kyyah Abdul to talk about what it actually means to create your own luck — not in theory, but in practice.
We get into the mindset behind “lucky” people, and how to increase your odds of luck through how you think, how you decide, and how willing you are to move forward even when you don’t have all the answers.
Kyyah brings such a powerful perspective to this conversation. From her background in neuroscience to her lived experiences with loss at a young age, she breaks down how resilience, decisiveness, and self-trust are all things that can be built — not traits you’re just born with.
We talk about decision-making as a muscle, why so many of us are stuck in analysis paralysis, and how social media has made us way too concerned with optics.
We also talk about boundaries (and why most people misunderstand them), the pressure of being perceived, and how to stop treating your life like a group project.
This conversation is a reminder that luck isn’t something you wait for, it’s something you build, decision by decision.
This episode is for you if…
- You keep overthinking your next move and feel stuck waiting for clarity
- You want to be more confident but don’t trust your own decisions yet
- You’re navigating a transition (career, identity, relationships) and feel uncertain
- You struggle with boundaries — especially with family, friends, or people you love
- You feel held back by fear of judgment
- You’re trying to “do the right thing” instead of doing what actually feels aligned
- You know you’re capable of more, but something is keeping you playing small
Episode Links:
- Follow Kyyah on Instagram: instagram.com/kyyahabdul
- Follow Kyyah on TikTok: tiktok.com/kyyahabdul
- Read The Prepared Graduate, a non-fiction career guide written by Kyyah wherever you get your books
- To learn even more, visit Kyyah’s website: www.thekyyahabdul.com
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