Why does being blocked hurt so much — even when you don’t even want the relationship anymore?
In this episode of The Cognac Room, Jay and Petra break down the psychology behind why getting blocked can feel worse than the breakup itself. From on-again, off-again dynamics to misunderstandings that spiral into silence, they unpack what’s really happening beneath the surface when someone shuts down communication instead of resolving it.
This isn’t about villains.
It’s about nervous systems.
You’ll hear a real-life scenario involving emotional exhaustion, an unexpected phone call, a missed connection, an accidental hang-up — and how a moment like that can trigger shame, panic, and a block instead of closure.
They explore:
• Why being misunderstood feels like an identity wound
• Why people block when they feel emotionally exposed
• Why panic after being blocked isn’t always about love
• How unresolved trauma amplifies small moments
• Why reconnection without repair leads to emotional recycling
• And how to regulate your nervous system when closure never comes
If you’ve ever replayed a conversation wishing you could explain yourself…
If you’ve ever felt unsettled because the story ended wrong…
If you’ve ever been blocked and wondered why it hit so deep…
This episode is for you.
Because sometimes it’s not the breakup that hurts —
it’s the unfinished meaning.
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