There comes a point where always being the hero starts costing you your life.
In this episode, I talk about what it really means to always show up for everyone else — and what it’s taken from me over the years.
For three years straight, I set goals.
For three years straight, I missed most of them.
It wasn’t laziness.
It wasn’t lack of ambition.
It was misdirected energy.
I realized I was investing more time into saving other people than I was building the life I say I want.
And when you’re always Mufasa in everyone’s story…
you forget how to be yourself in your own.
We talk about:
- The hidden cost of always being the dependable one
- Why reliability and accessibility are not the same thing
- The guilt that keeps you stuck in “hero mode”
- How survivor’s guilt shaped my boundaries
- Why being the “bad guy” might actually save your life
There’s a difference between being kind and abandoning yourself.
You can be the bad guy in someone’s story for a moment…
or be the bad guy to yourself forever.
It’s about DAMN time we stop confusing self-sacrifice with love.
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It’s about DAMN time we stop being the bad guy to ourselves just to be liked.
D.A.M.N. Challenge
Choose one moment this week to protect your time.
No explanation.
No over-justifying.
No guilt spiral.
Just choose you.
Sit with the discomfort.
Notice what doesn’t fall apart.
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