In this episode, I’m joined again by Monique Shields, and this conversation felt like therapy, coaching, and truth-telling all in one. We went deep into something I’ve personally been navigating: what it actually looks like to move out of survival mode as a high-achieving woman, especially when life has been life-ing.
We talked about the invisible weight many of us carry, from parenting to business to unexpected life challenges, and how that impacts the way we show up, make decisions, and even spend money. One of the biggest shifts for me? Realizing I wasn’t telling myself the full story about what I had been carrying and surviving.
Monique breaks down how our mindset around scarcity, energy, and outsourcing can keep us stuck, and what it really means to “resource yourself” instead of just pushing through. If you’ve been feeling stuck, foggy, or like you’re doing everything but still not moving forward, this episode will hit home.
Main Takeaways
- You’re not behind, you’re likely operating without acknowledging everything you’ve been carrying
- Scarcity mindset after a hard season can quietly shape your decisions and keep you stuck
- Your energy, not just your time, is one of your most valuable assets
- Resourcing yourself (mentally, physically, strategically) is essential for growth
Highlights Include
- 00:00 – Reconnecting with Monique and what she’s been building
- 02:30 – Why intimate spaces and coaching containers matter
- 04:30 – Starting YouTube and breaking through creative burnout
- 06:00 – The hidden impact of hard seasons on decision-making
- 08:00 – Why you’re not telling yourself the full story
- 10:00 – High-achievers and the trap of self-pressure
- 12:30 – Why “feeling less overwhelmed” isn’t the right goal
- 15:00 – Scarcity mindset after financial or life shocks
- 18:00 – Why cost-first thinking keeps you stuck
- 21:00 – The “delusional belief” successful people hold about their future
- 27:00 – The real value of your time and energy
- 33:30 – What actually changed after hiring support
- 36:00 – Mental fog and why you don’t even realize you’re in it
- 40:00 – Why stability is not the same as hoarding
- 43:00 – What it really means to “resource yourself”
- 46:00 – The importance of having multiple “brains” supporting you
- 50:00 – Why your nervous system needs support in today’s world
- 52:00 – Reframing “I can’t afford it” into a choice
Links Mentioned in This Episode
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Watch & Listen
Watch this episode on YouTube and listen on all podcast platforms:
- Apple Podcasts: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/side-hustle-pro/id1126021323
- Spotify: https://open.spotify.com/show/13qDj08lBR4ymzGhXIKy8t
- YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/sidehustlepro
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