“You’re not trying to become free; you’re learning to see what was never true.“
Why does something still feel off, even when you’re doing everything “right”?
You’ve worked on yourself. You’ve grown, healed, reflected, and made real changes. And yet, there can still be a subtle tension beneath it all, a quiet sense that something isn’t quite complete, something still needs fixing, or something is missing. In this deeply revealing episode of Soul Talk, Kute Blackson sits down with revered Buddhist spiritual teacher Tulku Lobsang Rinpoche, to explore a radical truth: what you’re experiencing may have less to do with your life circumstances and more to do with who you believe yourself to be.
Drawing from a profound spiritual lineage, this conversation gently but powerfully challenges one of the most fundamental assumptions we carry: the identity we’ve built and spend our lives trying to improve, protect, and perfect. You’ll begin to see how the constant effort to “fix” yourself can actually reinforce the very feeling of limitation you’re trying to escape and why, even after growth and success, a sense of incompleteness can remain.
Rather than offering another method to change your life, this episode points to something deeper. It invites you to question the lens through which you see yourself, and to explore what becomes possible when that lens begins to loosen.
If you’ve ever felt like you’re searching for something you can’t quite find, or working to become someone you hope will finally feel whole, this conversation may offer a perspective that quietly, but profoundly changes everything.
TIMESTAMPS:
- (00:01:52) – The illusion of self: who you think you are
- (00:03:40) – How identity is formed through conditioning
- (00:06:15) – Why growth and healing still feel incomplete
- (00:09:28) – The trap of trying to “fix” yourself
- (00:12:47) – Control, the mind, and subtle suffering
- (00:16:10)– Seeing through the false self (Tulku perspective)
- (00:20:35) – What remains when identification loosens
- (00:25:50) – True freedom: beyond effort and identity
In This Episode, You’ll Learn
- Why nothing in your life will fix how you feel (and what actually will)
- The hidden illusion of self that’s keeping you stuck without you realizing it
- How your mind creates suffering; even when everything seems “fine”
- Why trying to heal, grow, or improve yourself can keep you trapped
- What happens when you stop identifying with your thoughts and identity
- The real path to freedom and why it has nothing to do with effort
Some Questions I Ask
- What if the problem isn’t your life… but who you think you are in it?
- Are you trying to fix something that was never broken?
- Who would you be without the story you keep telling yourself?
- What are you holding onto that’s keeping you from feeling free?
- If you stopped trying to control everything… what would remain?
- Are you ready to question the identity you’ve built your life around?
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